I am a firm believer in optimism.
What I mean by that, is that I have often felt that even when you are in the worst of situations and everything seems to be falling apart, you can always find a positive. I make myself remember that someone somewhere is going through much worse. I remind myself of anything remotely good thats been brought about by situation. I do my best to dwell on the good, not the bad.
When you spend your time wasting away wallowing in your own self pity and letting all of the sadness, anger, depression or all other negative feelings of your situation consume you, you begin to drown in your sorrow. The smallest bit of hope or optimism can act as the life preserver that brings you back to the top to keep you afloat.
The problem is, in all of our lives, we have encounters or may still have that one person in our lives who can never seem to keep that floatie around. They popped theirs a long time ago and while they've decided to sink, they start flailing and trying to take you down with them in their misery when you're already sinking in your own.
I believe wholeheartedly that there are people in the world who are content to be miserable. I, however, am not one of those people, and if you intend to shit rainclouds on my day, you can keep your depression diarrhea to yourself. I don't need or want it.
I am insistent on making people smile and laugh. Its what I do. its how I handle stress and manage pain, and when someone is so determined to be down that the combat everything I say, my attitude turns to "Ok well, enjoy your self-pity then. I'm going to be over here not wasting my life."
I get it. Its harsh. Maybe it could be handled better, but its such a waste of energy with some people to keep pouring in emotion and love for them when all they really want is to just be unhappy. If I can't make you smile because you're so determined to frown, then frown away, emo kid. But remember: You're not starving to death. You're not dying of cancer. You're not going home every night facing an abusive home life. You're not destitute or impoverished. When you are any or all of the above, you can tell me how hopeless you feel. But when you have people who love and care for you, you have a job, you have a home and you have all your basic needs met, try to find those things to be the positives for you.
Live your life to the fullest and thank God for each day you have.
YES!
ReplyDeleteI agree. I've had to do this a few times. It's always painful when it happens, but it's so liberating to choose happiness instead of misery and to own your problems that honestly I can't say I've ever looked back and said "I really miss those friendships"